modern-day culture, the generational shift has seen many young
lovebirds have intercourse with each other before they get married in
order to determine their compatibility.
But for the Banyankole people in Southwestern Uganda, the aunt is tasked with this crucial role of knowing if both bride and groom, before the marriage, are good to go in having a taste of each other.
Although
this practice is now outdated, the primary responsibility of the aunt
was to confirm that the groom is potent and that the bride has defended
her virginity before the marriage is consummated.
As
a potency test for the groom, the aunt was sometimes required to have
intercourse with the groom for confirmation of his potency and virility.
She also had to “test” if the bride is still a virgin before they are
allowed to consummate their marriage.
In
other traditions, the aunt was said to go as far as listening in or
watching as the bride and groom make love in order to prove the couple’s
potency.
In asmuch as
this outdated practice may sound weird, it shows how the people of
Banyankole, particularly the Bahima tribe hold virginity in high esteem.
As soon as a Banyankole girl is eight, she goes through a lot of restrictions to prepare her for marriage.
When
other children her age in other cultures are out having fun and
playing, a girl in this part of Uganda is mostly kept indoors, where she
is fed beef and millet porridge and forced to drink milk in large
quantities so that she becomes fat.
Being
fat is synonymous with beauty among the Banyankoles. When she starts
developing breasts, she is also asked by her parents to abstain from
sexual activities.
It is
the duty of a Banyankole father to find a wife for his son as he pays
the bridewealth as well. This consists of some cows, goats and pots of
beer, depending on how rich a person is.
Once
the bride price is paid, the marriage preparations begin. On the
wedding day, there is a lot of feasting at the bride’s home, where the
father is expected to slaughter a bull.
At
the bridegroom’s home, there is another feast where the marriage is
consummated. This is after the bride’s aunt has “tested” her niece’s
purity and slept with the groom to also check his potency.
Source: Illuminaija
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